building convictions

as i wrestle with some issues of tradition over this wedding-planning period, these verses that i read today have given me a Biblical perspective to hold on to.

"For everything God created is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with thanksgiving, because it is consecrated by the word of God and prayer... Have nothing to do with godless myths and old wives' tales; rather, train yourself to be godly. For physical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things, holding promise for both the present life and the life to come... Don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity." 1 Timothy 4:4-12

balanced with:

"Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 'Honor your father and mother' - which is the first commandment with a promise - 'that is may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.'" Ephesians 6:1-2

i guess the key is knowing how to honour my parents' and other elders' wishes and standards, but not compromising on my own beliefs and blindly following any superstitions or traditions. i believe that some traditions do have value, but they should not become a means to an end.

some traditions i DO agree with:

tea ceremony - i think it's a visible and memorable way of showing respect to one's parents and elders for their care and upbringing until now, and it's the first visible act of the couple showing their thanks together. another bonus is the whole family will be gathered under one roof to witness the couple showing their respect and thanks, and to give their blessing - in the sense of approving the marriage.

wearing white - this symbolises purity, I believe. whether pure white, off-white or ivory, i believe that the bride should wear such a gown when getting married, vs all the new-fangled pink, blue and red creations of this day and age.

wedding rings - i do feel this is a very important symbol of commitment. many couples today may feel that this is just a part of the ceremony, but to me, the ring is a crucial statement of our willingness to be united as a couple for a lifetime, and that it's wearing should not be taken lightly. which is why i don't intend to keep my ring away in a box when i am married, but wear it proudly, and constantly remind myself of the vow i have taken. i would be devastated if i ever lost it, so God willing, I won't =b